I have a friend who is loving, balanced, insightful, and an overall great human being. Her parents divorced while raising their family. Her mom, Joyce, grandmother of ten, offered this advice about how to minimize the impact of divorce for all involved:
"Keeping the focus on the origin of our problem helped maintain as much harmony for the family as possible.
In short, the adult relationship was the root of our issues, not the children and family unit. We did not want to make our divorce the childrens' problem.
Remembering this vital distinction allowed us to come together as a family, even after we each re-married. Dissolving the marriage also allowed us to re-unite in friendship."
Words of wisdom on raising kids, from grandparents all over the globe.
Grandma's Pearls
I would like to invite you to join me on a journey. On November 1st, 2003, my mother died of pancreatic cancer. Her passing meant not just that I had lost a cherished family member, or that our community had lost a compassionate human being, but as a grandma she had a plethora of "pearls" on nearly any topic of child rearing, and these were gone with her as well. When I became a pediatrician in 1988, I would tap into her common-sense knowledge on a regular basis. Through the years, I found that many of my pediatric patients' grandparents enjoyed sharing their words of wisdom with me in my office, and I found these pearls especially valuable when I started my own family over ten years ago.
The journey I'm proposing is a shared attempt to capture this vast collection of accumulated wisdom on my blog. "Grandma's Pearl's" will celebrate a very special group of individuals who deserve to have a forum for sharing their hard-earned life lessons with others. It will be a compilation of advice from grandparents from all walks of life...capturing the insights of the grandparent-next-door, to the still-out-in-the workforce grandparent, to more.
My hope is that "Grandma's Pearls" will be a ray of inspiration for both new parents and experienced parents alike. Not a "how-to" manual on baby care, but rather a collection of practical, no-nonsense tips on how to raise good kids. You can share a couple of sentences, a paragraph, or a full-blown story if you'd like. I welcome you to share your pearls of wisdom and wit with the world!
Questions (these are suggestions only)....substitute in "dad, grandfather," etc. where appropriate:
- What tips do you (or passed down from your mother, mother-in-law, or grandmother) have on raising caring, happy, responsible, and well-adjusted kids?
- What did you (or your mom) do right, and/or what could have been done better?
- Was there a transforming moment in your (or your mom's) life that served as a guide in raising children? As a result of this moment, is there a "pearl" to pass on?
- Do you have a favorite "grandmotherly" quote that has helped you in parenting your children?
To submit a "pearl" click on:
About Me
- docmom
- I was a pediatrician in my former life...now I'm a mom with two kids. I think I've learned as much in the 10+ years I've been home with my kids as in all my years of medical school and pediatric training. Now, in memory of my own mom (who was on chemo and radiation when the above photo was taken), I'd like to pass on pearls of wisdom from all those smart grandparents out there!
- Adversity Quotient: Turning Obstacles into Opportunities (Paul G. Stoltz, PhD)
- Don't Sweat the Small Stuff...and it's all small stuff (Richard Carlson, PhD)
- How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk (Faber and Mazlish)
- How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk (Faber and Mazlish)
- Inch and Miles: The Journey to Success (John Wooden)
- Love Made Visible (Paul Brenner)
- Odd Girl Out (Rachel Simmons)
- Parenting With Purpose--Five Keys to Raising Children with Values and Vision (Marilyn L. Lane)
- Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys (Kindlon and Thompson)
- Raising Resilient Children: Fostering Strength, Hope, and Optimism in Your Child (Robert Brooks and Sam Goldstein)
- Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons From the Myths of Boyhood (Pollack and Pipher)
- Siblings Without Rivalry (Faber and Mazlish)
- The Last Lecture (Randy Pausch)
- The Miracle Year (Lanie Carter)
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